Friday, December 21, 2012

What Do You Want?

First, a big welcome to any ICLWers who may be reading.  Welcome to my blog!  I started this blog after getting pregnant (for the second time) because I wanted to be able to have a place to record a lot of things about my pregnancy.  But, my trying to conceive journey hasn't exactly been a smooth one.  I am a Pregnant After a Loss mom, as well as Pregnant after Infertility.  I set out to write an introduction with my story and that turned into 6 short posts.  You can read them here, if you are interested:

  1. The Beginning
  2. Trying to Conceive After Loss
  3. Taking the Next Step
  4. Our Appointment with the RE
  5. Surgery
  6. Our First Medicated Cycle
But mainly, welcome!

To get to my post title and what it means, it seems like everyone likes to ask "What do you want? A boy or a girl?".  For me, it's like nails on a chalkboard to hear this question.  What do I want?  All I care about is that my baby is healthy!  Truly, honestly, that is all that I care about.  I will be equally excited for either one.  I actually refuse to answer the question...I just hate the way that it's phrased as if you wouldn't want a baby of the opposite sex.  I guess this is just one of those Pregnant after a Loss things.  Before loss, I probably wouldn't have even given the question a second thought.  But now it really bothers me.  Just another reminder that I'm no longer a naive first time mom.


8 comments:

  1. VIsiting from ICLW. I'm really happy that your on your way to baby. I also have stage 3 endo and had the same surgery last January. Glad to know it didn't keep you from getting that BFP.

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    1. Welcome, thanks for stopping by! The stage 3 endo thing was really scary, I didn't even know I had it that bad until after the surgery. I thought the thing keeping us from getting pregnant was my septum. Who knew I had all these different issues? Thank God for great doctors and modern medicine.

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    1. Hi dillngr9! I recognized you immediately from the picture of your dog :) Thanks for visiting. I hope your A/S went fantastic! And I'm glad I'm not the only one who goes crazy from hearing that question!

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    2. I just wanted to say hi. Just hope you know that I stalk both of you on Pgal. I hope to join you soon.

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    3. Aw hi hon! I hope you get to come over to PGAL soon too. I stalk you and everyone on TTCAL too!

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  3. Hi from ICLW. I too would just want a healthy, happy baby.

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    1. Hi Rebecca, thanks for the comment!

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